(Soon available in Danish)
What is it about for you?
“Nobody can talk with you !!!”
“Don´t be so sensitive.”
“This manner I don´t wanna be adressed anymore !”
Certainly you know such situations in your daily life, when dealing with partner, kids, colleagues and other people around you:
- Does it happen sometimes that you wished the other one should change?
- Or do you know it by yourself that you - from time to time - choose strategies like withdraw or silence if a meeting does not work in the direction you would like it to?
- Have you ever experienced that you were so much making efforts and yearning for comprehension and being heard – and you simply didn´t succeed to create a working connection to the other person? And the result was conflicts and frustration – a solution not even visible at the horizon?
By the model of Non-Violent Communication you get to know a total new perspective and practicable possibility how – though having a conflict running – you can make a good connection to the other one. …even in cases when your´s or the other one´s anger is there, when you don´t share the same opinion or the other one adresses you by using judgements and accusations. We learn to recognize our own used habits like manipulation, threatening, punishment and blaming others. These strategies cost a high price on the plan of our relationships: They are highly efficient in order to earn not being-heard, rejection, refusal and destruction of our relationships in the end. This leads us far away from what we really need and wish.
Using NVC is no more focused on
Who has the blame and who is right? -
but on
How are you and me – and what´s supporting us coming together and further?
The good connection to the other person is the essential fundament that makes it possible to find a solution that is leading and acceptable by everyone in the conflict. The same is valid for our relationship towards ourselves: the connection to our own feelings and needs is crucially important in the run of any conflict. Inner ideas about ourselves like guilt, shame, depression or fear charge and complicate a conflict even more. To agree to a solution while being in that inner situation is not at all bearable and helpful: agreements with others will not be kept with a high probability. The opposite: not only we ourselves will pay a high price, but all parties of the quarrel: In the long run the evident result on the basics of such a decision is not efficient, neither on the human nor on the social or economic plan. NVC is supporting us crucially to gain clarity and awareness where we stumble on our own inner and outer limitations. This awareness sets us free – and the tools of NVC will help us translate this awareness into concrete and practical handling of a conflict. We become more and more able to create a space in all our relationships where we meet each other beyond right and wrong doings. This seminary is combining training of methods and personality. We work near to your concrete life - personal and professional issues in order to make you directly experience the process of NVC.
Welcome - we are totally available for you!